In this era where everything is an era and everything is put on social media and everyone has something to say about literally anything you do and say, is it too much to ask for a little honesty and just clarity? Where am I going with this, you may ask yourself? Well, it’s easy, my little grasshopper. I’m in my 30th round around the sun, and every day I find it harder and harder to actually find real people to talk to. Genuinely, I’m looking for people who truly want to be friends with you, people who want to get to know the true you. Instead, we find people who want to go to third base with you, and if you don’t, they ghost you. When you’re going through a difficult time, some individuals, rather than offering assistance with even the smallest issues, simply abandon you. Don’t even attempt to establish a genuine connection—this is merely a matter of friendship. That’s worse.

Even with my shyness and everything that goes on in my head, I’m a really sociable girl. I enjoy listening to others, getting to know them, and finding a way to open up and be authentic with them. However, by the time that opportunity arises, they tend to be… well, that may explain why I lack close friendships. I’m kidding; I do have friends…well, people that I know and occasionally talk to. But that’s it. So what I’m constantly asking myself is, is it too much to ask to just stay for a short while? As the other person becomes more comfortable, they begin to share more about themselves, rather than simply inquiring about your weekend plans. I never anticipated that my life would unfold in this manner; however, I am present, and that is a reality that I must adapt to. But it really does hurt my heart when all the intentions are there. I don’t know; people just don’t want to put in the actual work.

I guess all I’m asking is, what are the qualities, the requirements, or even the steps and instructions to actually create a friendship with someone in the 21st century? Additionally, where can I find the right people who share similar interests with me? Because I know I can’t be the only one that’s going through something like this.​

-Y